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John James, founder of The Grief Recovery Institute

John W. James

Founder of The Grief Recovery Institute®
Co-Author of The Grief Recovery
Handbook & When Children Grieve

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It's not just knowing what to do, you have to do it! (Published 10/27/2015)


I lost my sister when I was 3. After that my mom lost it and started pills. I was molested on a regular basis by a family member till I was 17. I lost my mom to suicide when I was 23. My ex husband brought me up to New England and I had 2 more children. I started getting sick - my thyroid was shutting down. My ex  had an affair. Then came 9/11, and my daughter joined the marines. On her way to being sworn in, she was in a horrible car accident. My world turned upside down. I got her back to health, then had to become her guardian. My husband left me for his therapist. He shipped me and my disabled daughter to New Mexico. I had to work my way back to Mass. I moved in with a friend and then my Daddy died. He was found dead on the floor. He had been dead for at least 3 days. He was green when we viewed his body. 2 weeks later my 1st cousin by marriage was murdered in Boston at a drug rehab location. 4 days after that I was in court getting a divorce. I came home to find my 19 year old son had overdosed. I don't know what to do. I feel like I'm being punished. My health is failing. I'm backed into a corner taking care of everyone but myself. 

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