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John James, founder of The Grief Recovery Institute

John W. James

Founder of The Grief Recovery Institute®
Co-Author of The Grief Recovery
Handbook & When Children Grieve

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A great testament is to have emotions, not hide them. (Published 1/21/2014)


My father almost a year ago. It was an unexpected death, he was only 55 yrs old. He had a rare lung disease and was often in the hospital with pneumonia. He died because they didn't know he had a blood clot, and when they sat him up for a breathing treatment, the clot broke off and went straight to his heart. I was in nursing school at the time, I was in my 1st semester. He died on a Monday. I somehow managed to get the money together to have him cremated, arrange a memorial service, AND be back in school on Thursday to take my finals on Friday. I have no clue how I did it but during this time, I knew that I needed to stay focused, as I know that my Dad would have wanted me to keep going so that I could keep my grades up. He was so proud of me for going back to school. My question is this: “Next month it will be one year since he died. I am having issues with this because I still struggle with the fact that he is gone. IN two months,  I will walk across the stage to get my nursing diploma. I think this is going to be SO hard because my Dad wanted to be there to watch me graduate, but he didn't make it. How do I get through this in a positive way?”

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